• Power Struggle: Who is going to control and why?
• Competition
• Wrong and Right
• Competency-he/she never does it good enough
• Trust Issues/Betrayal
• Withholding the truth/Denial
• Lying -Not telling the truth and/or keeping secrets
• Walking on “Egg Shells”
• Withdrawal-physical/emotional-The “Silent” Treatment
• Unresolved Patterns of interacting-not finding resolution to disagreements
• Lack of knowledge of Core Fears/Belief Systems
• Defense/Anger/Attack- NAME CALLING
• Manipulation to get “own” way
• Lack of Tools and Strategies to deal with Conflict Resolution/Cooperation
• Communication Problems
• Agreements: Lack of and Agreements made out of Expectation
• Unresolved Family of Origin Issues
• Lack of Respect-Disregarding
• Fault Finding-Being Critical
• Failing to Understand what is most important to your partner
• Lack of Attention-not spending quality time with partner or family
• Lack of Caring and Concern
• Talking about partner to others in a fault-finding manner

These destroyers will not just go away. It takes time and an effort. Learning about one’s “Buttons” and how to deal with them is foundational to a great relationship with self as well as others. Strategies and Tools in The Button Process is the “How to” deal with all of the above.